Happy Friday. We're dropping into your life today with a life-loving suggestion for you to try on the weekend.
So, what's Kanjoos?
Kanjoos means being stingy. As children we were always clipped around the ears if there was any sign of us being Kanjoos. I was the only girl in the family and I wasn't impressed when my big brothers took a bite out of my cake; if I complained I was told 'oh... don't be so kanjoos'.
Sometimes I sit and wonder why I do what I do. I like to give freely of my time energy and wisdom, but I become disappointed if things don't go my way. Of course giving is an ingrained behaviour but I was not nurtured in 'how to walk away once the giving is done'. This is a very important part of the process of not being a Kanjoos. It's not easy, but when we learn to have that unconditional, non-expectant attitude the energetic effects are amazing. We're not caught up with what happens after we perform our action; this means we have learned to give freely.
One of my mentors is Jim Rohn. He talks about these principles but puts it in another way: "If you give somebody everything they want, you will get everything you want". I tried this out in my corporate days and have to say it's what made me so successful in sales! Often-times, I couldn't believe how much money I made when I followed the simple process of helping the person in front of me. I asked the questions 'What do they need? Space, time, information?' Once I understood this and delivered what they wanted they became clients for life.
It is only now when I reflect on my ingrained quality of 'don't be a kanjoos' that I realise it flowed freely and was a great asset that secured almost all the deals I closed off.
Here's an article by Sadguru that talks a little more about this in the spiritual sense and covers some practice aspects too.
Have a great weekend. Namaste.